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Tips For Parents Who Are Considering To Send Ward To Study Abroad

In four chaotic months last year, my husband and I made the whirlwind decision to pull our son out of second-year Mechatronics at a South African university and send him abroad to study at Edinburgh University in Scotland.

There was a flurry of reasons for the decision, not least the wholly unexpected arrival of an incredibly generous windfall, which helped us contemplate such a possibility. When, as a parent, you first allow yourself to even dream of being in the position to enable a child to such a privilege, it’s hard to think past the positives:

The doors an international degree will open and expose your child to a certain standard of teaching, the networks they will forge, the experiences, adventures and challenges they will face.

But in reality, there’s a lot you should consider before sending in their application. For us, the whole experience of planning, applying and choosing was a case of “Blink! And… WHOA, he’s gone!”

No longer a family of five for dinner, his empty bedroom, the vast distance between us left at home and him living his new university life, the inevitable financial cost (windfall or not!), the whole process left my head spinning. But, almost at the end of his first year, he’s happy and flourishing.

We (his parents and siblings) have mopped up our tears at his departure and adapted to our new reality (How did parents survive before the advent of WhatsApp?) But if we had it again, though, I think I’d do it differently. I’d educate myself First.

Here, if you are in the lucky situation of being able to offer this opportunity to your child, are my Top 10 Tips of what to consider before taking this huge step.

1. Did I say educate yourself first?

Which country, which system, which university, which degree? Those are only the first questions to ask. You need help and information to make a choice that works, not just for your child but also for your family.

Start at an Expo, such as The Global Education Study Abroad Expo, which we are currently partnering with, on the Village.

Global Education represents over 300 first-class universities and colleges and runs its highly regarded events throughout May in Cape Town, Johannesburg, Pretoria, Durban and Zimbabwe.

You can get more information here, and also get a thorough overview of everything it takes to make the right choice by downloading The Village’s University Speaking Digizine here.

2. Listen to the students’ expectations

Maxine Kruger, Counselor and Admissions Officer at Global Education, says it’s crucially important to listen to the students’ expectations and anxiety about studying abroad and leaving home.

We often tell them, “when I was at university, this is what I did.” Rather, let them create their idea of what they want. You can phrase it like this: “I am excited for you, and I hope this is everything you want.”

3. Right option for your pocket

Ensure that you have chosen the right option for your bank balance!

There are, surprisingly, many terrific opportunities in many different countries to study, for similar tuition fees that you may end up paying in SA.

Inform yourself, do the research. We discovered that Edinburgh is a costly option, but we had not factored in the Scottish system of a four-year undergraduate degree! Ouch.

4. Do psychological preparation

Heidi Sulcas, Counselor, editor of University Speaking and MD of The Learner’s Journey, makes the vital point that everyone needs to do psychological preparation.

For a parent, a child leaving home is a minefield of Empty Nest emotions, excitement for them, loss for us. Not only does your child need to be emotionally ready to set off alone, to set up home in a strange new environment, but you will be left facing a strange phase of life too.

“It’s so exciting for them,” says Heidi Sulcas, “But feels like the end of so many things to us, parents.”

“Be kind to yourself,” says Maxine Kruger of Global Education, “It’s not easy to say goodbye either to one child or the phase of your life when you have a family when all your children are together at home. You will need to mourn that loss.”

5. Join a Facebook Group

For example, the UK-based group, What I Wish I Knew About University, is an invaluable resource for parents. It also has specific sub-groups for parents of universities you might be interested in exploring further.

There are many similar groups for parents of many universities and colleges elsewhere. Find them and join them!

6. Check the international tuition fee level

In What I Wish I Knew About University, Louise Fernet, a university advisor, suggested that parents: “Check the international tuition fee level, as it can differ greatly between universities.”

Equally, don’t be swayed by universities’ reparations and rankings. It is far more critical, with regard to the status of universities or colleges, to find an option you can afford and which offers the course and experience which fits your child.

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